Not only have we considered what we can afford in energy efficiency (or renovating as such), but house buying requires considering the cost of your location. No, I do not mean the cost of the house, but the cost of living in that house.
Do we want a bigger chunk of land, where obviously we are going to have to drive 15 minutes minimum to just about everything (work, life, play), but we have our sanctuary to start a family? Do we want to sacrifice space and interior square footage in order to live somewhere more urban?
(Unfortunately, Raleigh is so big, that you can literally live downtown “in the middle of everything” and still have to actually drive 15 minutes to get just about anywhere. Sigh.)

Oh, City of Raleigh... I wish you were... smaller.
To be more specific: do we want to live near downtown Wake Forest, where we can live and play conveniently in a walkable community, but drive 25-50 minutes each way to work? Do we sacrifice living in a community we really enjoy in order to be much closer to work, but also have to drive to do anything else — including driving to a park just to go for a jog? Unfortunately for us, nothing is “walkable” about Raleigh. You better love your car. I mean, insanely love it.
Location. Location. Location.
The thing is, “location” means different things to different people. Like Marc and me.
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It turns out, we bought a house in an area neither of us had shown any previous interest in. I would love living in the heart of historic downtown Raleigh (or actually historic downtown Wake Forest or historic downtown Durham). Then again, everyone would, and that is why the houses are a fortune.
Honestly, we find downtown Raleigh entirely too busy, too froo-froo, and too big for us. We like a downtown you can navigate completely by foot. Asheville, by the way, is our favorite, with Wake Forest, Durham, and Pittsboro tying just underneath.
We found a house two weeks ago that we really really liked though. A house that is the nicest house we’ve looked at so far. Gorgeous. Two stories (I always wanted to live in a two story house… Marc wanted to stick to a ranch). A beautiful green color home, with a beautiful open front porch. A large, happy back deck. Spacious, lovely rooms, and nicely maintained.
This house was way east of where we wanted, however. East of 540, just north of Knightdale. Country. I mean, ponds, swamps, horse-stables, mosquito-ridden country.
While we both like the idea of the country, I guess we both realized we are not ready to be that far away from everything. Even a pop-up trip to the store would be a production.
Then our agent let us know a house we saw back in April was back on the market. North of North Hills, south of North Raleigh… in an area we think is convenient and we can love. Easier to work, play, and more. Where I can jog, where we can meet friends, where we drive a little less.
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So maybe “location” does not mean something that different to Marc and me, after all.
Just another part of the debate as we look at the money, the houses, and our lives.
Sustainably yours, Ashley Sue